An introduction to BDSM

Where to start, what to do and the kinkiest lingerie to wear.

If you are curious about BDSM, you are certainly not the only one. From Netflix shows such as Sex/Life and Bonding to K-drama Love & Leashes and of course, the OG Fifty Shades of Grey, it seems like everyone is inspired to get a taste of how bondage can make things even more exciting in the bedroom.

But if you are brand new to bondage and kink, don’t worry, the first step is that you’re open to new experiences. The BDSM lifestyle is actually not as intimidating as it seems, as it can range from a simple act of enticing the senses to the full bondage and whips. What is most important is to focus on exploring different sensations for pleasure and to spice things up in the bedroom. All you need is some curiosity and a trusted partner you can experiment with. Here are some ideas to inspire your BDSM play so you can heat things up on your next hot date.

LOOK THE PART – When you dress provocatively, you’ll feel sexier

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Add body accessories
You can start the BDSM look with simply adding even one accessories such as body harnesses, chokers and nipple covers, with your regular lingerie. Who knows, these items may even inspire your partner to use them for your pleasure as you play!
And as a bonus, these items can also double up as bodywear or jewellery outside the bedroom, so you can get even more mileage out of them!

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Get the bondage and fetish look with kinky lingerie to get you in the mood
Adorning yourself with sexy lingerie is sure to get you and your other half into the mood for some BDSM fun. Bondage-style lingerie like those by Bordelle, Baed Stories, Bluebella and Maison Close offer a wide selection of erotic and seductive lingerie from open body harnesses to cupless bras and crotchless panties. The whole point is to try out kinkier and different styles to your norm that expose certain parts of your body, to tempt and entice your other half. It might not stay on for long, but that’s your goal isn’t it?

EXPERIMENT & HEIGHTEN THE SENSES

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Experiment with bedroom fun accessories

You can easily kickstart your BDSM adventure with some simple bedroom accessories such feather ticklers, vibrators or floggers to add the play factor with your partner and explore what and where feels good to you. Even gentle strokes using a flogger or tickler can increase the level of excitement in the bedroom.
The next level up, you can add restraint accessories such as blindfolds, handcuffs or ankle cuffs. Being restrained significantly heightens the sense of touch and for an even more intense experience.  Just how hardcore you want to take it to… is up to the two of you.
For inspiration, brands like Fifty Shades of Grey, Bijoux Indiscrets, Liese Seele and ELF Zhou have plenty of gorgeously designed accessories you can stash in your nightstand drawer for the right occasion.

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Communicate with your partner
You may have watched scenes of role playing in popular shows about BDSM, which will probably get your own creative juices flowing. But remember, the most important element of bondage in the bedroom is having open communication with your partner. This can be as straightforward as clearly communicating your likes and dislikes in the bedroom so that you can explore each other’s boundaries.
If you would like to go further with rough play, you can experiment with the full bondage of the limbs and other whips and floggers, however do also agree on a safe word to stop when you need to. This will help to create a safe space so you can role play and act out your deepest fantasies with each other!

Now it is time to heighten your senses through BDSM play by trying it out for yourself! Expand your boudoir with Avec Amour’s wide range of bondage wear and accessories now.